Why people cheat

If you have ever had to lie to your mate about where your going, where you've been, whether you've had a drink, a joint, masturbate,or anything else, you are probably a candidate for cheating.In this life we meet all kinds of people. We get into relationships & commitments for varied reasons. Sometimes it's with absolute good intentions,but after the first 6-9 months boredom slips in, the mundane everyday tasks of paying bills, arguing over stupid things that don't matter, endearing qualities that have now become annoying nails on the proverbial blackboard. But instead of owning up to the fact that the two are just not compatible, they keep up the front for friends & family. women are desperate to land Mr. right, men want the Barbie doll that makes their friends drool. Im not saying that marriage & monogamy are impossible,I have been married 3 times & NEVER cheated. I was was once so in love that I never even noticed a hot guy walking past me. Do you know how intoxicating it is to have a fantasy, and your actually in love the person your fantasizing about? (and he loves you too?) Pride, ego, insecurity..these are all factors in cheating. Men worry about the ability to still "score". that is his womans fault. If you make your man feel like the god of fuck that he IS to you, he won't stray. If you belittle him in front of his friends, your opening the door for it. men & women lie & hide things from each other. afraid of what the other would think if they truly knew what their secret sexual desires were. Communication is KEY. If you like something TELL him, ask him what HIS biggest fantasy is, you may be surprised to find it isn't the old 2 girls in bed thing as most men did that shit in their college days.As a woman, have you ever grabbed your man by the shirt collar and thrown him down on the bed? Have you ever climbed into the shower with him while his face was soapy,eyes closed & just got down on your knees? Have you ever pulled a mans backbone out(sexually) thats how mine described what i did to him. Cheating is the single most horrible thing you can do to a person. It is humiliating,degrading,lonley & destroying. some couples do recover from it, but usually down the road the marriage/relationship ends,because it never really goes away.Do not stay with someone just because it's easier than leaving. do not get with someone because you think you can change them. you can't.If your an average looking male, forget the Barbie doll, shes more into her self than she will ever be into you. Opposites attract? eh, sometimes, but that won't last either.HONESTY attracts. being able to hold a conversation attracts. I firmly believe sex starts by fucking the mind,love starts by caressing the heart,and if your ever lucky enough to find the mate with whom you can FUCK & MAKE LOVE to at the same time, there will be no cheating. I don't care if there are kids involved, that's not an excuse to stay in a weak relationship. do your kids a favor, split, remain friends & show them that adults can still care even if they cant coincide. before you jump into the sack with someone, have the conversations, be truthful. Im a 52 year old great grandmother with the sex drive of an 18 year old boy on crack. I have never had the "headache" in fact...sex will relieve the headache, it also gets rid of menstrual cramps. If your a woman, and you don't like going down on a man, you had better let that little bomb out up front. He deserves to know. If you are a woman, and the man you desire is a player, womanizer or just plain slut puppy, then your for warned, he most likey isn't going to change for you. Men , if shes flirty, winks at your friends while your back is turned or spends more time worring about herself than you & her together, you have also been warned. some people find the perfect match once in their lives. some never find it. Have enough sense to know when it's not the real deal. also have enough sense to know if it IS the real thing, never take it for granted. Keep it alive, nourish it. Climb on top of his back one night with a bottle of baby oil & just slide all over him. do things he does expect from sweet lil ol you. If this seems like to much work for you, then yeah, you'll probably find HER # tucked away somewhere. Cheating is not just the fault of the one committing the initial act, if you have let yourself go, if you have forgot about his/her needs, if you take for granted for one single minute that they will always be there, your setting your self up for the fall. Cheating is a selfish act, that comes from many selfish acts, lonliness,boredom etc..it is a subject that the two people involved have to sort out if thats even possible. I do not think it should be held up for public ridicule, that won't solve anything. Jerry Hall used to make Mick Jagger buy her jewelery every time he got caught, she settled for that, right up until he knocked up the lil babe in Argentina..then she got pissed and left him. they played their own game..it failed. If you love you mate, be kind, be good, be true, be a slut in the bed room, a lady in the parlor & a chef in the kitchen, but above all, be there for him. He may not be perfect, but as humans none of us are. learn to forgive willingly,kiss deeply,know when to fuck his brains out & know when to cuddle like kids. Peace.